Themes I explore in blog posts and dear today letters
Relationships
Many of us come from a culture that praises people for remaining in relationships no matter what the conditions are. Never giving up on someone is seen as graceful and loving. That can cost us our health, our sanity, and even our peace, but we love them anyway. How can we know when to stay and when to go?
Motherhood; Postpartum
If we are living bravely, our entire lives will become a million deaths and rebirths. Including motherhood and postpartum. As women, this transition can feel like a death of our old selves, while simultaneously carrying the joy of a fuller, richer idea of ourselves and our purpose.
Family cycles
Every family normalizes their own form of dysfunction. In order to cope, we adopt survival strategies that last into adulthood, usually without processing their impact or deconstructing that belief system about ourselves and how we are allowed to function in our own relationships.
Faith; Religion
Faith can mean many things to different people. Maybe you stare into it with joy. Maybe you stare into it with pain. Your experience with religion might be an unfair, all-consuming way of being, a trusted ally, or something you don’t connect to altogether. Knowing what it means to you is what we’ll focus on in this space.
Domestic violence
Domestic violence isn’t reduced only to physical or sexual abuse. It can take on many forms (even in relationships we trust), that may not seem dangerous at first including emotional and psychological abuse, verbal abuse, and financial abuse. The goal is to gain power, control, or dominance.
Career
Women and their professional careers can be tricky territory. Mom or career — do we have to choose? How do we get past the egos, judgment, and unfair advantages of men to feel worthy in our workplace? How do we balance the guilt, the pressure, and the stereotypes to know the work we truly want to do with our lives?
I’ve spent the last four years doing a lot of learning. A lot of realization. A lot of uncovering what's been hidden. A lot of deconstructing and reconstructing. And as my vision has shifted, so has the narrative of my life. The stories I was once told, and believed with conviction, have gotten bigger. I've discovered deeper context, more details, and have witnessed many unique and diverse experiences. Living through and rewriting these themes for my life have been core in my healing process and are so integral to who I am as a person.
I’m not a professional, by any means, but the wisdom I’ve gathered isn’t one-dimensional and lived from the outside. It’s from true, lived experiences that I’ve wrestled with, overcome, or still battle with today. Diversifying shared wisdom is something I’ve become passionate about. And that’s what I’m here to do for you and with you.
